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There is a huge opportunity for unity among the church community while casting vision to launch evangelistic movements inside public middle and high schools. The “I’m Not Ashamed” film highlighting the story of Rachel Joy Scott, the first student killed in the Columbine tragedy in 1999, will come to theaters on October 21, 2016. First Priority is partnering with the film because Rachel’s story highlights the struggle for Christians in our teenage culture, the loneliness of a public school setting, and what God can do when a teenager wants to shine for Jesus. We are on the road this week pre-screening in dozens of communities across America. Here is what we are seeing happen:

“Orlando was last night. The theater was full and hearts were open and engaged. I was given the opportunity to share both at the beginning and at the end and introduce FP for really the first time in the Central Florida Area. People came from everywhere, met people from Daytona to Lakeland.  God was proclaimed, vision cast and doors opened for FP with several churches across the greater Orlando area. Following up with several this week.”
Eric

“Last night in Miami we had a good turnout. The theater was full. Everyone seemed to be engaged and ultimately moved by the movie. There was a lot of good feedback from all ages. I actually had a few teenagers at the event who said they really connected with what Rachel was going through, so I am excited to see how much excitement is generated by students once it opens.”
Mike

Join us in prayer as we seek leaders to rise up in every community in America. We believe the body of Christ is alive and well and that there are Christian students everywhere who feel alone in their faith, struggle with acceptance and popularity, desire to be light in the darkness, and simply need to be sent to school with the gospel. Will you join the movement?

Brad

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“Leadership begins when you become aware of yourself.” I’ve heard that a couple of times this past week in 2 different podcasts and this book that I am reading by John Powell, “Why I am afraid to tell you who I am”. As I heard that statement, I read the section below by John. My thinking was that this rang true of me and gave me a sense of opportunity to stand tall and engage people. Even if I had a bad encounter the day before with someone, I am no longer the same and neither is the person I had a bad encounter with. This perspective has helped me to grow, even in the last week, and stay open to what each person had to offer in relationship that day. Read below and let me know what you think: brad@fpofamerica.com.

Peace,
Brad

“If I am anything as a person, it is what I
think
judge
feel
value
honor
esteem
love
hate
fear
desire
hope for
believe in
and
am committed to.

These are the things that define my person, and they are constantly in process, in the process of change. Unless my mind and heart are hopelessly barricaded, all these things that define me as a person are forever changing.

My person is not a little hard core inside of me, a little fully formed statue that is real and authentic, permanent and fixed. My person rather implies a dynamic process. In other words, if you knew me yesterday, please do not think that I am the same person that you are meeting today.

I have experienced more of life, I have encountered new depths in those I love, I have suffered and prayed, and I am different.

Please do not give me a “batting average,” fixed and irrevocable, because I am “in there” constantly, taking my swings at the opportunities of daily living. Approach me, then, with a sense of wonder, study my face and hands and voice for the signs of change; for it is certain that I have changed. But even if you do recognize this, I may be somewhat afraid to tell you who I am.”

via John Powell in his book, “Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?”

People talk about love all the time. The people we love. Places we love. Things we love. But the question becomes, if there is so much love out there, why am I afraid to tell you who I am? John Powell thinks there are a few reasons for this phenomenon in our culture and has written about it in his book by the same title, “Why am I afraid to tell you who I am?”

The first reason is the Cliche. We say things like, “I love pirates”, because we saw the movie ‘Pirates of the Caribbean’ and we feel like we know enough about them to enjoy their company. Now, at this stage, it is key to know that while people do not know much about each individual pirate, they use generalizations in order to make a connection with the pirates that they encounter. People at their heart want to know and be known by those people around them. So, when we meet a pirate, we try our hardest to make an instant connection through what we think we know. That is “cliche”.

The second thing that happens in building a relationship is Fact. We start to say what is true of us as a person to navigate the pirate label that we’ve been given. Things are said like, “Yes, I am a pirate, but I was born in Iowa and grew up in a small town.” Facts enable us to work through the Cliche’s that we have towards each other.

As we learn facts about each other, we develop an opinion. This is when we start saying what we think about the pirate in front of us after we get to know how his Iowa small town background effected why he became a pirate.

It is at this point when we can touch our toe into the space of Emotion. We have a new opinion, we make a few statements, and we fall “in love” with our new pirate friend. What we do not often realize about our culture in general, is that we do not like this place very much. We quickly run back to the cliche, gather a few new facts and build our next opinion. This type of lifestyle is much safer. Well, it feels safer anyway. But we do not realize that we have not reached the final place of being known and truly loved.

If we do not run back to the beginning, back to cliche, we can get to the final place of transparency. This is the place where you are able to go to a friend and say, “when you said that thing in the group the other day, that really hurt me.” and you are able to work through it and grow from it. It is the place where someone knows something (bad) about you and you allow them to invest in you without running away.

Our culture does not provide us with the necessary capacity to live in either emotion nor transparency. If you’ve only lived in the west, you will have to exercise this in order to make it normal. This is so true of us that when we do have an argument or momentary deep conversation, we feel like we suddenly have a connection when in reality we just dipped our toe past an opinion. In First Priority, transparency can take a while. When you are uniting the local churches, not only are there the personal relationships to develop, but the idea of theological differences hangs over those relationships. It leads to, “This pastor is Church of Christ or Southern Baptist or Reformed, I wonder if he believes ________?” To develop transparency, it takes time. It takes the intellectual flexibility to stand in relationship united in Jesus even if other things do not jive.

Peace for the moment,
Brad Schelling
2 Timothy 2:2

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Where does meaning come from? Viktor Frankl in his book “Man’s Search for Meaning” shares a couple of thoughts to this end. Viktor is a Psychologist and Holocaust survivor who tells his story through the years he spent in the concentration camps. Here are his three ideas.

Work on something that is good for the world.
Being (exist) in a community where you experience deep love.
Redeem the events of your past.

Number one on the list is having your ‘why’ of life answered. Knowing why you are doing something helps you to endure any ‘how’. You find meaning in life by having purpose and working towards that cause that brings good to the world. This is the reason that volunteering at the local food bank feels good inside. It is where the statement, ‘It is better to give than receive’ takes on meaning at Christmas. By working on something that is good for the world, you find purpose in life. This is the reason I got into ministry. 1 John 3:16 says, “This is how we know what love is, Jesus gave up his life for us and we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.”

The second part is this: You can work to save the world, but if you do not have people around you who know you personally, the meaning of life is also not there. Jesus had that community with his Father and the Holy Spirit. He spent time early every day with them. The core of our existence is being created in the image of God. God is 3 in 1, the Trinity. We were created for community. I am going to share a little more on this in next week’s blog post. For now, I will say that we need to be transparent. We need people in our life who we can speak into and who can speak into us. Those who can come and say, ‘When you said this, it hurt.’ And you can work through it and become a better person because of the transparency.

Finally, we get to redeeming the events of your past. Starting out, this implies working through the bad that has happened to us or the bad we have done to others. The good doesn’t need redeeming. So how do we carry the shame, guilt, and/or pain of the past? How can we work to let that go? Like the first two, this is also not a solo mission, but a community event. Whether it is deep or a mere flesh wound, we need people to walk through it with us. Sometimes that community is simply going back and seeking forgiveness. Sometimes that is sitting at the gravestone and saying what was never said. Sometimes that is grabbing a friend, writing the past on a piece of paper, and burning it forever.

You must practice all three of these things together. 30 years ago, 1 in 10 Americans stated they didn’t have any close friends. Today, that statistic is 1 in 4. I think that foundation for changing the direction of all this in our society begins in Acts chapter 2. They were DEVOTED… they were in it together. They ate together. They shared their passions and possessions together. More people came around to be a part of the rest of eternity. They found the meaning of life. Together.

Brad

Special thanks to Jake Smith at Church of the City Nashville for bringing this topic and book to light in my life.

Mans Search for Meaning-Viktor Frankl

The day of this writing, Pat Summit, the great 38 year coach of the University of Tennessee Lady Vols, was celebrated by the University of Tennessee. She is the winningest coach in NCAA women’s basketball history. She answered this question that was re-aired in a recent Entreleadership podcast (https://www.entreleadership.com/podcasts/154-jocko-willinkhow-to-lead-and-win): What are the non-negotiable and essential characteristics of a championship team? “Offense sells tickets, defense wins games, rebounding wins championships. Understand what our goals are and meet those. You might have an off shooting night. You should never have an off night on defense and rebounding. We should never have an off night on lack of communication. We need to be in this together and realize that it is not about the individual. We are winning for the team. We are winning for the university. We are winning for the greatest fans in college basketball.” Pat Summit (http://www.patsummitt.org)

Do you see any correlation between basketball and ministry? Below is mine, but I’d welcome your initial thoughts as well (email or Facebook me).

Every leader has their strengths, but you need to lead a well balanced team to be healthy in leadership. This applies in sports and ministry. All people like to play in their strengths. Leaders included. It is natural tendency of life. You may be a gifted worship leader. Your passion may be the fellowship of the church and enjoy helping people feel connected. You may be an evangelist by trade. But, like a basketball team, if you only focus on your area of giftedness, you will be flashy and attractive for a moment, but you will not win as many lives to the Lord as you could if you surrounded yourself with people who are good at things you are not. If you are an evangelist, get some students in your ministry to lead out in worship for the service. If you are a worship leader by heart, train some students to share the gospel in their school through the First Priority model of ministry (www.firstpriority.club). Surround yourself with people who are good at the other essential areas of ministry. If you want a quick list, Rick Warren’s (http://rickwarren.org) list of 5 purposes (http://www.purposedriven.com) at Saddleback is a great place to start.

The basketball and church leader comparison is finalized in this: the seats will eventually be empty if you do not put a team of people together who understand the bigger picture and play their role. “I’ve never scored a basket for the University of Tennessee. I’m starting my 36th year at UT. It is all about the people you surround yourself with.” Pat Summit

Peace for today,
Brad

Teenagers are Self Interested

Most Teenagers are a product of their culture and our culture is all about the consumer. Marketers have been targeting our kids for years and playing to their emotional needs. Ten’s of thousands of hours of screen time and all the related ads can’t be undone in a 30 minute pep talk. Because of this when it comes to Teenagers; they will understand most biblical truths through the lens of how it affects their lives. Cognitively they should be able to think outside of themselves, however in our society it’s not an issue of ability, it’s an issue of conditioning. To reach teenagers you have to make a personal appeal or they will tune you out.

Even kids who have grown up in Christian families and have a strong background in church will have a hard time paying attention if you don’t address how the scripture relates to them personally. Quite frankly teenagers have been programed to be self-interested thinkers. You need to get to know them well enough to relate biblical truth to their personal needs. However, don’t make the mistake here of falling into moralism (good apart from the gospel). Teenagers need the gospel. Help them to see their need for the Savior.

Having a self-interested teen can be a mixed blessing. On one level you can’t compete with millions of dollars of marketing, well written scripts, and super model actors… on the other hand… those people don’t know “your” teen. While you may be less entertaining than the latest super bowl commercial, a little time well spent learning about the teens in your life can give you more credibility than axe body spray ever had.

Teenagers are Emotional

Teenagers make decisions based on feelings more than rational thought. Physiologically they are still developing the rational part of their brain while the emotional impulse part of the brain is already developed. They default to what they know. Something which seems cut and dry to you, is a major issue to them because they simply lack the development in their brains to process the situation the way you can as an adult.

They can still get there, it’s just not the preferred method and it requires you to connect a lot of the dots for them. Think of this as exorcising a weak muscle. The tendency to default to emotion is why students can sometimes be prone to “drama.” Teens often use the filter of feeling (“how does this make me feel”) to evaluate their circumstances and to make decisions. We need to guard our kids in this area because it leaves them open to manipulation.

The positive side of this is that teenagers are able to be empathetic. However, rarely do they ever get there without some help or guidance along the way. It is generally good when ask “How do you think it made them feel?” When talking about how our actions effect others.

Grumpy Teen: If you are a parent dealing with a grumpy teen take in to account how many hours of sleep your child is getting each night. Most studies indicate that middle school age kids need around 9 hours of sleep or more per night and only about 15% of teens are getting enough sleep (There is a reason they would sleep till noon on Saturday if you’d let them). If 13 year-old Tommy is acting like the 3 year-old Tommy when he didn’t get his nap, it’s probably because 13-year-old Tommy is tired.

Challenge: How well do you know the teens in your life? If you don’t already, schedule regular personal time with your teen doing something you both value. What emotions tend to rise to the top when you are carrying on a conversation? Pray for the teenagers in your life. Ask God to give you wisdom in applying the scripture to their needs. How is their sleep schedule? Sometimes a late weekend wake up is due to not enough sleep during the week.

Jonathan Hill

https://followjonathan.wordpress.com/about/

Welcome to this series on teenagers. The goal of this blog series is to help parents and youth workers to understand the general changes and issues that teenagers are facing. Sometimes a little knowledge can go a long way in helping to develop a proactive game plan for parenting, teaching, and shepherding students.

These are general observations gleaned from over fifteen years experience in youth ministry. Nothing in this series is ground breaking, earth shattering, or even new. Hopefully these basic observations will give you the insight, perspective, and perhaps empathy for the teens in your life. Of course the ultimate goal is to learn how to best take the gospel and apply it to the teenagers in our lives. This series is mostly to help you understand the world of being a teenager. To this end I hope the entire series proves helpful

We’ll be taking everything in bite size chunks. So buckle up and hold on to something, we are about to reenter the teenage world armed with the gospel.

Teenagers are Changing (Literally!)

Teenagers are emerging adults. This isn’t an overnight process. They are in a constant state of transition from childish dependence on others to adult like independence. One moment they may surprise you with their ability to give selflessly to others, the next moment they can throw an emotional tantrum and break down because mom asked them to take out the trash. They really do have a foot in both worlds. It is fair to expect your teen to be more responsible, but don’t assume it will happen without a few setbacks along the way.

When a set back occurs, take it in stride, gently help refocus your child’s attention on becoming responsible. Be sure to take time to praise the positive strides you see your child making. Genuine praise and encouragement for being responsible will motivate your child to become even more responsible. If we’re not careful we can fall into a pattern of discouragement by only noticing the set backs and it’s easy to deflate your child’s motivation toward responsibility.

Teenage bodies are also growing and developing into adult bodies. Your teenager will most likely hit growth spurts. Not only will they get taller, but thanks to puberty their bodies will take on a more manly or womanly shape. It is important to keep in mind that mature physical appearance doesn’t mean that your teenager is grown up mentally as well. Many teenagers are children in grown up bodies. Just because they look grown up, doesn’t mean that they are.

Your child may be taller than you, but they still take their cues from you on how to handle the various situations life throws their way. They may not be asking for advice because they feel a pressure to figure things out on their own. A wise parent will make the extra effort to be available for their child to talk. Sometimes talking works best in a shoulder-to-shoulder situation or in the midst of an activity rather than an intense face to face sit down. As a parent it might be wise to schedule a regular time with your child each week to participate in an activity you both enjoy. My dad was always great about taking my brother and I to play tennis, fishing, look for fossils or arrowheads, and a host of other activities we enjoyed. Later in life these times fueled great shoulder to shoulder conversations on the ride home that helped both my brother and I process life.

Each of these posts will end with a Challenge. This is a way to take the post beyond just information and allow the information to impact the way you interact with the teenagers in your life. Obviously the applications will be different according to your relationship with teenagers. Much of this is geared towards parents but will have some application with youth workers as well.

Challenge: Write down the name of the teens you have in your life (if you have a bunch then you might want to spread this over a few days). Take time to pray for them. Thank God that he has placed them in your life and ask Him to help you be sensitive to their needs as they mature. Ask God to give you wisdom in your relationship with them.

*Write down all the ways that you see your teen becoming more responsible. Think of appropriate ways to encourage your teen when you see them following through on this type of behavior
*Now write down areas of responsibility that you they still need to work through. Current frustrations, etc. Pray over these issues and have a game plan in place to encourage the snot out of your kid when they step up to the task.
*Think of ways to challenge your child to be more responsible.
*Pray that God would protect your child from people who would want to take advantage of them.
If you don’t already have a regularly scheduled time to hang out with your child start working on a plan to get some shoulder to shoulder time in on an activity. Think of something that will be fun for the both of you and work at it until you find something that sticks. You’ll be surprised at how much this regular interaction will open the doors for authentic communication down the road.

In the coming days and weeks we’ll be looking at teenage grumpiness, technology, identity, forgetfulness, and more!

Jonathan Hill

https://followjonathan.wordpress.com

“The cross is why Jesus came to the earth.” While that sounded right when I got up to preach after spending hours in scripture, the deeper thought is that Jesus came to redeem His people. He came to tell them that “The kingdom of God is near. Repent and be baptized.” (Matthew 6.) He came for the life change that will happen in our lives. The cross is the what. Peace in this life and into eternity is the why. John 10:10 says that Christ came so that we can have life to it’s fullest. That fullest is defined in Galatians 5 as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control.

When a person gets up everyday, studies Christ and His life, and works to develop a plan to influence those around me with his life, it happens that you forget the big picture of why you got into ministry. Especially amidst the focus of daily ministry tasks. I have held various full time ministry positions since September of 1998. I felt the call into full time ministry already in 1994. It has been a great journey. During that journey, I have had ebs and flows to what I have been doing to call myself a student minister.

The cross is the what. It is what Jesus did in order for us to have the peace through life with Christ (why). I think we often get these confused. We need to remember our why so that the what has more influence. Michael Jr. does a tremendous job of helping explain this better than I can. Check out this video:

In the banking industry, one of the fundamental requirements of a teller on the front lines is to not accept phony money as the real thing. Accepting phony money is not only shameful for someone who handles bills on a daily basis, it loses money for the bank. So the question becomes, ‘How do the banks train tellers to recognize a real U.S. government issued bill?’ The answer is more simple than most people initially think. They simply help them learn everything they need to know about the real thing. There are so many frauds out there, that to train every teller to recognize the frauds would take forever. Then the next fraud would come up with something new and the teller might let it go through after not recognizing it. So, by training the teller to know what a real bill looks like, they know that if something is different, to flag it and take it to a manager.

I believe the best way to help students share the gospel is to help them recognize the truth of the gospel in their life. In leadership circles it is said that you cannot lead people to where you have not gone yourself. We need to help students in understanding what the gospel is. Many Christian students who have gone to church their whole life cannot articulate their faith in Christ in 30 seconds or less. Then we can help them to see how God has worked in their life, write that story down, and provide a place to share it with their peers. By having a clear understanding of the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus and how that has changed their life, they will have everything they need to be light in a spiritually dark life they encounter daily in the halls of school.

Peace,

Brad Schelling

This is an epic generation of students. Students not only love the word epic, but they live the word out. Tim Elmore’s book ‘The iY Generation” talks about how, as adults, we can learn to engage the current rising generation. His epic analogy is simple, but plays into the ministry of First Priority very well. Let’s take a look.

The E of epic is that they are experiential. “They are not looking for a sage on the stage, but a guide on the side.” (Tim Elmore via the Entreleadership Podcast) The more that we can coach and give them opportunities to experience the life that Christ has for them, the more interested they will be in our relationship. For First Priority, this means that the adults coach while the students lead. They live life at school everyday. For believers, they want to experience everything that God has in store for them day in and day out. First Priority gives them a weekly plan that empowers them on a daily basis to see their experience at school not just about learning, but as an opportunity to engage the hopeless with the hope-filled Good News they know and hold in Christ. The adults around them need to guide students to live out their call for Jesus everyday at school.

The P of epic is that they are participatory. They grew up with American Idol and similar TV shows that gave them the opportunity to decide the outcome. If they don’t get to vote, they aren’t as interested. They do not simply want to watch anymore. They grew up with a smart phone in their hand which allows them to participate in arranging their screen and in the clash of clans as they move through life. There needs to be a way in the ministry that we run to give them ownership of the outcome. For First Priority, that is the HOPE cycle. It is a clean and simple plan for them to implement weekly at school.

The I of epic is that they are image rich. Images are the language of the 21st century. Emojis and Instagram have helped shape this idea. Can we help students picture what life would be like if those in school lived a life of hope? What does that picture look like? Helping students learn how to articulate their faith story is the beginning of that picture for the school. This is the purpose of Prepare Week in the HOPE cycle. Many students cannot picture their school believing in Jesus because they aren’t clear about what God has done for them personally. Having students write and share their faith story (testimony) helps them bring clarity to that picture.

The C of epic is that they are connected. With the advancement of technology, in the smart phone specifically, they are more connected than they have every been. Yet, that perceived connection hasn’t filled the void of relational intimacy that we as humans long for. As believers even, students feel alone in our faith at school. Many students go to church with 20-30 in their youth group and go to school with 2-5 of those friends from church. With the gender and grade differences, they do not hang out daily with anyone who they talk faith with. Is there a way we can help them connect on that level at school? Again, for First Priority believes that there are more students who consider themselves Christian than any other group. Let’s connect them together with the call to connect as many in the school to Jesus as are interested.

Young people support what they help create. We can help them create a safe space in their school. They can create the opportunity for people to seek and share Christ. First Priority will be a movement that will change the lives of student leaders, lost students, the spiritual feel of the school, and eternity.

Peace,

Brad Schelling